Love: What Girls must know about Guys

I just found about these somewhere and compiled them. I think most of them are accurate according to my experiences and observations. Some of the points are from my own experiences. Guys, if you think that some of these points are wrong, please tell me...

  1. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.
  2. When a guy really likes you, he'll disregard all your bad characteristics.
  3. Many guys go crazy over a girl's smile.
  4. Guys like girls that having sense of style. (It depends on what kind of style the guy like.)
  5. Guys don't like girls who think childish. (Do not confuse with girls who look childish.)
  6. Guys will do anything just to get the girl's attention.
  7. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend. (Duh...)
  8. When you touch a guy's heart, there's no turning back. (So be careful girls!)
  9. Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!..uh...never mind!" would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking. (They don’t admit this!)
  10. Guys go crazy when girls touch their hands.
  11. Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.
  12. When a girl says "no", a guy hears it as "try again tomorrow."
  13. Guys love their moms.
  14. A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn't mean that the guy likes her.
  15. Guys are very open about themselves.
  16. Guys really admire girls that they like even if they're not that much pretty.
  17. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.
  18. A guy who loves you finds ways to keep you off from linking with someone else.
  19. Guys try to find the stuffed toy a girl wants but would unluckily get the wrong one.
  20. It's not easy for a guy to let go of his girlfriend after they broke up especially when they've been together for 3 years or more.
  21. When an unlikable circumstance comes, guys blame themselves a lot more than girls do. They could even hurt themselves physically.
  22. Most guys are tigers in their peer groups but become tamed pussycats with their girlfriends.
  23. When a guy loves you, bring out the best in him.
  24. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him. (It doesn't happen that often, so when it does, you know something is up.)
  25. Guys don't like girls who punch harder than they do. (So jangan nak tunjuk kuat.)
  26. Guys love girls who can cook or bake. 
  27. You can tell if a guy is really hurt or in pain when he cries in front of you!(He won't show it to other people)
  28. A guy who likes you wants to be the only guy you talk to.
  29. A guy would give the world to be able to read a girl's mind for a day.
  30. No guy can handle all his problems on his own. (He's just to stubborn to admit it!)
  31. Even if you dump a guy months ago and he loved you he probably still does and if he had one wish it would be you to come back into his life.
  32. When a guy loves you, he loves you more than you love him!

Was I a Nerd?

My schoolmates used to think that I was a nerd. I was having the characteristics of a nerd: wearing oversized pinafore and blouse, carrying large, heavy school bag, having neatly tied and clipped hair, and talk only important things. But I did not wear glasses.

I think I was not a nerd. There are reasons why did I have to be dorky. I had a problem with dressing because I was very very skinny that no pinafore could fit my size. I couldn't wear small blouse, because it will not suit the oversized pinafore. I tied my hair and clipped it because my hair was very frizzy and could not stay in place. My bag was heavy and overloaded not because I was very hardworking. I am a very forgetful and absent minded person, so I brought almost all of my text books to school.

I have been a very silent person. I do not talk much and I  seldom gossip. My introversion also adding the points to my 'nerdiness'. To somebody that had never talked with me, I tend to look like I have no sense of humor, just like most nerds. People judged me by my appearance and thought that I could not get jokes. I knew it because people used to make nonsense joke to me, like talking to a 3-year-old kid. In class, I did not talk to my friends during lessons. My eyes were fixed to the blackboard. Everybody was thinking that I was very focus, contributing to my excellent grades. Actually I was thinking of something else... remember, I said I am absent-minded?!

I have been very fond of fashion. It was only that I could not wear stylish clothing because of my unfit figure.  When people thought that I was busy studying in my room alone, I was actually drawing cool dresses and my imaginary characters. I went to the mall with my mum every weekend to see new arriving cool outfits, handbag and shoes. I had also picked clothings for my mum (my mum is one of the fashionista teachers in school!). Nah, my mum is cool...

Nerds are all dorky.

Guys from other class made fun of me. They called me "straight As", "genius", "kenit" and many more unpleasing nicknames. I am hard to become angry unless provoked. Again, that adding a point to my 'nerdiness'. As a normal teenager, I had also fell in love with the opposite sex. I had a crush with one cute guy at a time, but I was very shy to show it. People might think that I would never think of courtship. Once I showed it off, I thought the guy I liked would freaked out. I had tried to become courageous once, by getting close to a good-looking classmate of mine. All the girls in my class were like, "Uhh, please! Look at the mirror, you dork!". Well, that was only my "riot", they should have not worried to much because I  knew he would never crush on me. Oh, this remind me of a Taylor Swift's song, You Belong with Me!

Now I grew up and have some curves, I am able to follow the fashion trend. However I still have a limiting factor, which is the "ka-ching!" thing.

There are many types of real nerd. Computer nerd, bookworm nerd, idiot nerd, gamer nerd, comic nerd, anime nerd, just-simply-nerd, only-wear-skirt nerd, and etc... Surely, they are all dorky. Most of them are geeky and weirdos. Nerds are always being very very passionate on one or few certain things (except for fashion and sports) that they only live in their own world, making them hard to socialize, and tend to become fashion blind. They are very obedient, they follow instructions, rules and regulation very well. All nerds are left-brained, although they may appreciate some kind of arts. However not all nerds are introvert and lacking sense of humour. Not all nerds wear glasses. Nerds may seem vurnurable and innocent, but they can be damn wicked!

Well, this one... You name it...

Do not mistakenly identify all (100%) of those who wear glasses, have frizzy hair and wear oversized school uniform as nerd! No stereotyping!

Bidayuh Costume

Despite of being stress with my final year project, I am very excited of designing my new Bidayuh costume for this year’s Gawai. Wearing the traditional costume on Gawai festival night has been my favourite part of Gawai. What is so great about it? I feel like a honoured Bidayuh maiden, just like in the famous modern Malay sayings, “perempuan Bidayuh terakhir” as in the film “Perempuan Melayu Terakhir” starred by Vanida Imran quite a long time ago (Ready your bucket for puking earlier next time before reading my entry).

Hereby, I want to share to you about the traditional Bidayuh costume. I can see there are still many Malaysians who do not know how the Bidayuh costumes look like, or cannot differentiate it with the other ethnics’ costume. Some even think that Dayaks wear leaves to cover their body and as loincloth (according to my experience, I had met one who think as such).

Male Bidayuh traditional costume comprises the loincloth, or locally called ‘chawat’, a vest that is made of the inner bark of trees, head band which is usually red or black in colour and some accessories. However, nowadays, this kind of costume is only worn by the Bidayuh men during performing the ritual or traditional dance and Keling contest. Keling contest is like a Dayak ‘beauty peagent’ contest for men. The name of the contest is derived from a love story of a legendary handsome man named Keling, who married a beautiful and talented maiden named Kumang.

Bidayuh maidens if Kampung Pichin

The female Bidayuh costume is mainly black in colour, but some are red, with borders of contrast colour. Black suits are always bordered with red, yellow, gold or silver, while the red ones are bordered with black or gold. The reason of preference of certain border colours is simply the conformation of the colours. These colours are also natural, because in the olden days, Dayaks dyed their fabrics with dyes that are derived from natural sources such as turmeric and accessorize their dress with beads, silver and gold.

My sister and who-else
The design of the female costume top is adapted from the kebaya blouse. The sleeves can be long, three quarter, short or even sleeveless. While the sarong can be long like a maxi or short, (the shortest is slightly above the knees). The sarong is usually decorated with laces and trims from India and can be embroided with beads. The uses of beads in the Bidayuh costume are not as distinctive as in the Orang Ulu costume. The suit is incomplete without the red scarf over the top, at least one silver or metal buckle around the waist and a headgear which is either a tailed cap or a conical hat called the ‘toko’.

Kumang beauty peagent contestants posing in the "Awah Gawai"
However, this is the modernized form of female Bidayuh costume. The Bidayuh costume had been reinvented by the modern Bidayuh women after the British colonization era, to make it more convenient, comfortable and fashionable in the modern era nowadays. Before the innovation, Bidayuh ladies are only wearing a dark cloth which is tucked above the chest to form a tube dress (kemban), or merely wear sarong (topless). They also had brass coiled tightly around their calves as a beauty trend. Their hairs were always tied up neatly into a bun (sanggul).

Actually there is also the modernized form of male Bidayuh costume. One suit consist of a black long sleeved shirt and a pair of black trousers with red or gold border alone the neck, button line, wrist and ankle. The neck of the shirt can be round, v-shaped or clerical collar. Many Bidayuh men prefer to make the Bidayuh gear stylish by wearing only a black vest (with red border and decorated with gold trims in the inner of the border) as a top layer over any shirt and match with any trousers. Loincloth is not favoured by the Dayak men anymore since about 140 years ago. As I mentioned before, it is only worn when performing traditional dance or Keling show. I would like to show you a quote taken from an article about Bornean loincloth written by Otto Steinmayer;
“A foreigner sympathetic to Dayak ways of life, and not only to its superficial particulars, can only deplore the nearly complete abandonment of this ancient and beautiful dress. I have especially wished to write this article in defence of it because of the remarks of persons who flaunt the Penan loincloth as a symbol of alleged Dayak "primitivity" (whatever that means) and unwillingness to conform to "progress." The argument that the loincloth is even "uncivilized" will not hold water.”
Let me translate it to Malay:
“Orang asing bersimpati terhadap gaya hidup orang Dayak, bukan sahaja pada perkara remehnya, hanya mampu kesal dengan pengabaian pakaian yang usang dan indah ini. Saya telah berhasrat untuk menulis artikel ini demi mempertahankannya. Ini adalah kerana terdapat segelintir orang yang beranggapan bahawa cawat orang Penan ialah simbol kehidupan Dayak yang kolot (apa-apa je lah) serta tidak seiring dengan “kemajuan”. Percanggahan pendapat tentang cawat ini malah "tidak bertamadun" serta tidak berpatutan.”

Body Weight Problem & Dilemma

Which is better, being fat or skinny? I am glad that most people I have known are still able to think wisely and choose the middle choice which is never mentioned. However, what makes the middle choice very difficult to have is that, it seemed never exist in some peoples' mind, especially girls that are very fond with fashion and modelling. Other thing that makes the "between" skinny and fat become very hard to achive nowadays in my country is the irresistible delicacies that are abundant here. Going to some 'classy' eating outlets like McDonalds, Starbucks and etc. almost every day eating burgers, cheesecakes and drinking soft or creamy beverages seems cool because people can have yummy food and showing off that they are afford to spend there. However, the ordinary eating places or stalls like the mamaks are also selling foods with high calories. Therefore, being overweight is common, even become a norm in our society nowadays. There are no more greeting such as "have you eaten?" (like in the olden days) be heard.

Eat eat eat

I have been in depression because of my weight. For those who ever saw me but never know how my life actually is, you guys might think that I am counting heavily on my weight and starve. I am not, instead, I am in the opposite of that! As what I had posted before, I am wanting badly to gain much weight. I always wonder why there is no meat and fat sticking on my bone. Or is my appetite really small? It is sickening for me to know that those with BMI below 17.5 are anorexic and BMI of under 16 is a benchmark which the WHO consider as starvation. I am not anorexic nor suffering malnutrition! I am still alive, able to carry my luggage upstairs and able to throw a bowling ball on its lane! Many people use to make fun of my petite body. I think they thought that I feel good and being very proud with my size. For the past years, I cried almost every night before sleeping, thinking of myself. I lack of confidence most of the time. I always imagine how am I going to find a job with my kiddish look and how am I going to dress according to my age, and fit in curve showing outfits. I even think about men acceptance towards me and how my sex life will be in the future.

I also think that those fat people that made fun of me were actually feeling very insecure with their own look and tried to make make me look like a poor little thing so that they forget to feel sorry for themselves. Huh! How about the pretty girls that were also making fun of me? I think that they make fun with those who they think are not as perfect as them so that they feel secure that nobody is more perfect! I know that I have a beautiful face and guys are crazy of my smile, and this making it worse. If I did not have it, I think there would be less hurt. Now I realize, it involves insecurity! I met some guys that commented on my body. One of them made fun, but the others 'adviced' me to eat more rice. Anything that come out of a guy's mouth about my weight always make me feel offended although he does not mean to hurt. I am very sensitive about it. To the girls out there who think that they are fat, I tell you, we are the same! We, fat and bony, are sensitive about weight! Do not mock me anymore! Get a life!


Being too fat is not good. It is also not good to be too skinny. You will not glow (berseri-seri) and look like a corpse. What kind of life if you puke out the leaves that you had eaten? It will be just like a life of a cow. However, after the anorexic awareness, some people start to become hypocrite by saying "she's great!" when looking at a picture of a model with fat layers and cellulite. Stop thinking so stupid! Why is there no modesty (kesederhanaan)? Being ideal is the best. Ideal is between fat and skinny to me. It is enough if your weight decreases (for the fatty) or increases (for the skinny) to a simply firm body, without layers of excessive fat on your tummy and back, without flabby arm, and without cellulite. You will even looking more stunning. Having bones protruding everywhere on your body is not important. These are all the indicator of health; that shows you are free from obesity-related diseases. For the natural skinny people who are always been made fun, be strong! Try your best to be healthy and find a partner that accept you for who you are! Eat right and have the fun exercise. The most important is that you are healthy and happy.

My Nostalgia

Nostalgia is the bittersweet longing for things, persons, situations or the past. It also means homesickness. Now I am having a pretty nostalgia about things happened last holiday. I am missing my family and home. I am sure, in this back to skool season, many of you are homesick. Homesick can even make you physically sick, like having fever because it can make you feel depressed and this leads to decreasing strength of your body immune system (according to my experience).

As I said earlier, I am missing my home - then a question arises in my mind, where is my home? I used to have home in Miri. Now, I can say it is just a place for me to spend short term break holidays. My family has a house in Kpg Pichin. We use to gather there every Gawai festive and Christmas. Last holiday was Christmas celebration, so it means that I am longing for the one in Kpg Pichin. I really had some good times with my friends and family that holiday.

 Peaceful and green picturesque scenery from our house.

I am also longing for Christmas.  I enjoyed decorating home, shopping and making cookies before Christmas. I had fun gathering with my family members and visiting my friend's house  on Christmas. My Christmas time was joyful, however I felt that it was not as merry as in the past years. Where had some parts of Christmas atmosphere gone? I barely heard any Christmas music from the villagers' houses. Almost every door in the centre of the village was closed before 12 midnight. Had everybody became Cinderella?

Last but not least, I am missing my beloved pet cat, Mimik. She was found dead by my grandfather in the backyard. She most probably died of poisoned. A couple days before her death, she refused to stay in the house and refused to eat. Her mouth was foaming and her feet were wet. I got a chance to talked to her and she replied me with very weak meows. My mom thought that I was being ridiculous. I was so sad, I had even prayed for her. She had been living with my grandparents for 5 years already.

As my previous experiences, I am sure that my homesickness will be completely gone by next month. It happens every semester.

Creepy Community Hall

Take a look at this photo. Can u see a lady behind, on the left side?

I am still in a holiday mood. I need a motivation to wake up.

Alright, back to this topic... This photo was taken during New Year Countdown Dinner Party in Kampung Pichin community hall by Miss Judith (the one with white blouse in this photo). I was attending the party with my sister and friends. The next day, my uncle gave me this photo.I was shocked at my first glance on this photo. But after longer observation on this photo, I think it is not that creepy. A friend of mine uploaded it in Facebook and people gave different views on this photo. It is up to you to believe whether the 'lady' behind them on the left is really a ghost or not. After reading the comments, I came with some reasons why do I think it is a ghost and also why do I think it is a human.

Reasons it is a ghost
  • The hair - nobody in Kampung Pichin would come to any party with such long untidy hair except for Kevin a.k.a Ella Rungkuk, plus, he was not attending the party. If he did, I am sure he would not hang around at the sitting area.
  • The position of the head is too high.
  • I am not sure where the body is.
  • Nobody recognize who was that.
  • The owner of the photo claims that there was nobody with such look sitting behind them.
  • All residents of Kampung Pichin (but the babies) know that the hall is really haunted.

Reasons it is actually a human
  • The owner of the photo took it while they were sitting, so it is logic for the head look quite high. Look at the angle properly. It is not 180 degrees.
  • I think I can see the body- she is wearing a black top. Look like she was rising from her seat with her body bent. Urm... Maybe she was about to heading to the toilet to tie her hair... I guess.
  • Look at the pink thingy behind these two girls. Isn't it the 'lady's' friend? Get me or not?
  • In this photo, the 'lady' is smiling. Can you see her cheek uplifted? Or if it is really a ghost... maybe the ghost really had a good time.
  • The 'lady' look tangible. Look at the strands of her hair, and the reflection on her hair.

What is your opinion?

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